Something occurred to me the other day. We hold back compliments. Why? They cost nothing…right? I wonder though, if there is some level in our heart that doesn’t believe that. Maybe it’s because we secretly worry that since that person is favored and blessed by God with those gifts and those attributes that means we’re somehow not enough. We can’t possibly measure up next to them. We see God bring about opportunities and fulfilled promises in their life. And we feel forgotten.
If you’re feeling this way, there’s a radical solution. Celebrate with that person.
A few months ago I listened to a Steffany Gretzinger talk where she said a game changing statement:
“When you can’t see your promise, celebrate with someone whose promise is showing.”
It’s really easy to see other people who share our passions as rivals or even enemies. We’re quick to pick up our swords, and feel justified in harboring jealousy toward someone who reached their promise first. But we miss the valuable gift of getting to encourage and steward someone else’s calling. And we don’t get to see them grow in that.
And let me bust that heart myth once and for all. Encouragement costs you nothing. Satan would like you to think that it costs you. He lies to you, telling you that if that person is gifted and blessed God somehow has less blessing for you.
And this works so well for him, because if he can get us to hold back our encouragement from someone, that person may never live up to their full potential because they lacked a person speaking encouragement into their life.
What if that word of encouragement is just what that person needs? What if that person is discouraged and your compliment is fuel to their dragging passion? Words are powerful. Words are gifts.
When you stop and celebrate other people’s accomplishments (especially if they’re getting to do something you wish you were doing), it’s really beautiful. And God sees that. He sees your longing. And I believe it speaks volumes when you celebrate someone else who is carrying a new-born promise that you long to carry yourself.
The person you see as a threat to your success could become your best ally. And doesn’t it only make sense that somone who shares your passion should be a person who you thrive in friendship with?
We all come out on top this way. Satan wouldn’t want you to know that, but it’s true. He wants us to miss out.
On friendships. On the energy that person could get from your encouragement. And on the beauty that you get to witness as they thrive in their calling.
God’s favor on someone else isn’t a sign that He’s forgotten about you. Maybe He’s working behind the scenes, in ways you can’t see yet.
Trust God. Trust the process. Celebrate with that person whose promise is showing. God has not forgotten about you. He has got something for you to do. Read Jeremiah 29:11! Rest in the fact that His blessings and gifts do not have a limit. He will not run out before He gets to you.
Maybe you’ve never felt like this. But if you have, I want to challenge you to start giving out compliments like confetti, knowing that you are enough in God’s eyes.
I hope some lies have been liberated from your heart. And that this post gives you the freedom to not be threatened by other people’s accomplishments.
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